Have you ever wondered why certain people are happier than you? Here are 15 secrets that make happy people happy.
You can do many things to make your life more enjoyable.
Here are 15 things you should avoid as you start.
1. Blaming others
Being happy means feeling empowered. It is easier to blame others or external circumstances for your current problems.
However, this gives others control over your day, mood, and life. It simply creates enmity plus, regrettable words will be said.
It’s really awful to give away this power. You must take control of your life and stop blaming others for your issues.
You will be happier if you wake up and realize that you actually have control of your life. It means you’ll be able to direct your life through whatever path you desire.
2. Feeling sorry for yourself
People who are happy don’t have pity parties. Being treated as a victim has never made anyone feel empowered or happy.
It doesn’t matter how bad things seem, it is important to keep your eyes on the positive.
Find one thing you are grateful for. Gratitude changes your outlook and makes it easier to stop feeling sorry for yourself.
3. Spending time with people you don’t like
Hanging out with someone you don’t like can really bring you down.
Spend as much time with people who support and lift you up as possible. Spend as little time with people who are negative as possible.
Begin to notice who in your life is feeding your soul and who is bringing you down.
4. Being Controlled by Fear
Everyone has a fear. However, allowing fear to control you is a trap.
Fear is not magical, it’s more like a state of mind. However, it’s essential to face fear to become brave. Remember, bravery is not the absence of fear but rather the ability to control fear.
Consider the worst thing that could occur if you do the thing you are afraid to do. Consider what you would do in that situation.
It’s likely that it won’t really matter in the grand scheme for life. It will either be forgotten forever or made into a compelling story.
5. Bragging about yourself constantly
Narcissists are easy to identify. They only want to talk about themselves.
They interrupt you because they are always thinking about the next thing that they want to say.
They are so focused on their own lives, thoughts, and misery that they can’t help but be unhappy.
You can make yourself happier by focusing less on yourself. Instead, focus on the needs of others. Listen to what they have to say.
Because we have two ears and one ear, we can hear more than we speak!
6. Getting motivated by “stuff”
Materialistic people get little gratification from the acquisition of emotional possessions, for example, they’re not happy when told that they’re loved but they soon are when you buy useless things to show that love. You should stop looking for external contentment.
You can only find happiness within yourself. You can’t buy happiness.
Many times, more stuff will lead to more misery. You might feel guilty about spending money on it, or you may just be apathetic that it is sitting around. But it will never be used.
Or, your home will look cluttered. You will have to spend a lot of time sorting through the clutter.
7. Gossiping
People who speak negatively about others are something you need to be aware of. You may feel deep-rooted insecurity when you’re around such people.
They may be inherently negative, or they simply make it their mission to try to make others feel bad.
Gossiping can be indulgently entertaining if I’m being honest. It can be difficult to stop. It’s even more difficult to stop if it’s started by someone else, or is being targeted at someone you all don’t like.
It’s actually poisonous. It will not make you happier when you hurt someone’s feelings.
8. Letting go of your dreams
It doesn’t matter if you believe in manifest destiny, it is helpful to dream. It’s a sign that there is hope. Hope is a powerful thing.
Dreaming is about seeing possibilities and positive things. If you stop dreaming you will feel stuck. Stuck = unhappy
You can also dream by imagining what you want. The first step to creating your ideal day, job, or life is to envision it.
9. Always saying yes
Happy people don’t accept everything they’re told to do because they value their time. There are many people out there vying to waste your time and energy.
If you agree to help everyone who asks, it will be a disservice to yourself. Remember, you can’t help everyone. Besides, who’ll help you?
You can say no to being asked to do something you don’t have the time to do or just dislike. You don’t have to apologize or explain. Simply say “I’m unable to commit to that” then simply move on.
Not respecting your time is a sign that you are unhappy because no one else will.
10. Focusing on past mistakes
If you dwell on past mistakes, it is impossible to live a happy and fulfilled life. There is no such thing as “failure.” Only more learning opportunities.
You can look at a mistake objectively and see how you could have done it differently. It’s impossible to go back and make it right again, so what are your options?
Learning from them to make better, and happier decisions.
11. Considering what others think
Happy people don’t depend on others to validate them. You will never find peace if you place too much importance on what others think of you. You won’t be able to guess correctly, either.
You shouldn’t weigh the opinions of all people in your life equally. Some people are more valuable because they are smarter, kinder, or more thoughtful about certain things.
You decide how much weight you give to anyone.
It’s not possible for everyone to like or “get” you. This is hard to accept for fellow people-pleasers. It takes practice to let go of the worry of what other people think of you.
12. Critique and complain
People who are critical and judgy are not happy people. They focus only on the negative aspects and circumstances of other people.
People who are positive don’t judge themselves. We all know someone who is self-deprecating and constantly criticizes themselves.
You wonder if these people are just looking for compliments or if they truly are so miserable.
It happens to everyone! Try to stop complaining. Instead, talk about something else.
Although it may seem better to vent than anything else, it often just makes us mad more.
13. Multitasking
Multitasking is not the best way to work productively. Your brain cannot focus on more than one thing at once.
If you try to do multiple things at once, it is impossible to be present at any moment. It will serve you better (and make you feel happier) if one task is completed before moving on to the next.
Happy people know when to put down their phones and be present in the moment. They are able to disable most notifications so that their attention isn’t stolen constantly.
Try looking away from your phone more if you find yourself reaching for it every second of the day.
Your happiness isn’t hidden in your phone. It’s great to stop feeling distracted.
14. Acting neglectful
People who are content and happy take care of their belongings and themselves because they value the blessings in life.
Your happiness will be greatly affected by constantly taking pride in yourself.
Start by taking care of your body with exercise and grooming. Keep your home and belongings tidy and organized.
15. Striving for perfection
Stop trying to be perfect if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life. While it’s great to have high standards, you can drown your happiness if all you want is perfection.
You can’t expect perfection from others. This means that you should expect that life will be full of challenges and that every day won’t go according to plan. That’s perfectly okay.
Many people believe that perfection is a good thing. It just means you are never satisfied with anything.
While striving for excellence is admirable, expecting perfection will be detrimental to your happiness.
Conclusion
You may have been searching for happiness but it has not come to you.
Take a look at your life and see if there are any of these 15 things that are causing your unhappiness. Your thoughts and actions are what make up our moods.
We can all make our lives happier by changing our mindsets and habits.
