Many of you won’t know right away if someone is the right person for you. It is all part of the process of getting acquainted with someone.
Because I have been in a long-distance relationship and know what to expect, and how to keep it healthy and happy, I will share my tips for making it flourish.
1. Don’t listen to everyone
Many of my friends were surprised when I told them that I was now dating someone.
They quickly learned that we were in a long-distance relationship after hearing about how we met at a friend’s house while I was visiting.
Many of them had been in relationships and were skeptical that anything long-distance would survive.
Even though people were questioning my relationship I knew it would last because I knew the person I was with.
This is to say, regardless of how much you doubt or feel, don’t let negativity get in your way.
You should be careful about what advice you take and make sure to surround yourself with supportive people.
People who don’t share your beliefs are not the best people to surround yourself with if you want to make your relationship work.
2. Trust and Be Trusted
Trusting someone distant can be difficult. It’s difficult to trust someone far away when you aren’t there to watch their every move.
You should not place suspicion between yourself and the person you are dating in order to have a long-distance relationship that thrives.
If you are confident that the person you’re in a relationship with is important to you, don’t make a barrier between you and them based on fear.
Most of the time, fear is just a waste of space in our heads. On the other hand, you must be trustworthy. You both can get new friends to spend time with.
While it’s okay to have friends from a same-sex group, it’s dangerous to be too close with someone of a different one when you are in a long-distance relationship.
Trust yourself, remember, you are human. Do not put yourself in situations that might cause you to doubt your feelings for someone.
3. No texting while fighting
Although it’s not as dangerous as texting while driving, it can be very problematic. Sometimes, it can lead to anger growing even more.
It is difficult to measure your partner’s anger without listening to the tone of their voice and this can quickly become a mess.
Set up a Skype or phone call to talk through your frustrations and to share information. Do not text. You can then communicate with each other and see how things are going.
There is no need to vent anger or frustration in a long-distance relationship.
4. Consistency
This will depend on the relationship. However, whether you want to chat for hours each day via Skype or only once a week via video chat, ensure that your communication is consistent.
A regular time for communication is the best way to make a relationship feel secure. You both will feel more secure knowing that you have set times to talk.
It’s okay to send and receive text messages, but it’s better to schedule a time for real communication.
5. Real communication
Real communication is important. You want to talk to your partner every Skype call or phone date about how you feel.
You don’t need to just talk about your life, but also share any worries, frustrations, and thoughts about your relationship.
This will crash down all the barriers growing in your relationship.
6. Plan an intimate date
Setting a date is something really important. It’s a big step. You should make sure that you have a date to reconnect.
How? you might ask. You can always plan something, no matter what it takes, even if it means traveling to visit your partner.
You can save the money needed to buy a plane ticket. Even if it’s only 10% of your monthly salary, this is a significant saving.
It’s important to make it a priority for you to visit them so that your long-distance relationships can thrive and not just survive.
You should also set a date for when you will end the long-distance relationship.
Life events can change your feelings in a relationship.
However, if you are serious about someone, you should take it seriously enough to prevent barriers from splitting you up.
