Sometimes, being single isn’t always easy.
It can be hard to believe that your true soulmate will eventually come along, especially when you look at your friends and ex-partners in new relationships.
If you’ve been in multiple breakups, you’re the reason why many of those relationships didn’t last.
You didn’t make the effort to improve yourself when you later became single. You just rushed into another relationship.
You were carrying a lot of baggage and you had to fix some issues before you could get into a new relationship.
This is your chance to put yourself first and think about what you will bring into any relationship. You will succeed where others fail.
1. Be selfless
We are all self-centered, let’s face it. It can be worse if we are single. Do not carry it over into your new relationship.
This can lead to hurt feelings and even breakups. It’s important to share the experience with friends and family members to learn to give instead of taking.
Because people can only give so much before they run out of things to give. You have to realize that it isn’t all about your needs and what you want. You have to learn to really listen to your partner and do what they want, not what you think they’ll want.
You can end up hurting them badly. A relationship is not about finding someone that will make you happy but rather finding someone you’ll make happy.
If you follow this ‘ideal’, it will keep both parties really happy.
2. Take a look at what you did
It can be tempting to point fingers at someone if you have been in a relationship or had a bad friendship. You have to look at what you contributed in the end.
What were you able to say or do that hurt them or pushed them away? Was there anything you said in a fight you regretted later?
Did you ignore them when they tried communicating with you? A relationship that fails is rarely a one-man show.
Look for the positive things you can do so the past doesn’t repeat.
3. Discover those past wrongs
Sometimes, the things that we do now weren’t always there before. For example, you probably couldn’t effectively communicate with your ex in your last relationship.
You probably yelled a lot or barked at them when you wanted them to do something right away. This was likely because they often failed to follow up or ignored you.
This trait is now a common one among families, friends, and even other relationships that have ended badly.
Do you see where I am going? You want to identify unhealthy patterns in your relationships and prevent them from being passed on to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
You could endanger the relationship if they are great listeners but fail to follow through once or twice.
You can train yourself to let go of the things that aren’t working so that you can give your next partner a new start.
4. Take note
Are you familiar with some of those perfect relationships displayed all over, say TikTok? Pay attention to what they do and how they are healthy.
This could include your parents, your friends, or even family members. What do you find admirable about them?
Are they respectful of each other and don’t talk negatively about each other? Do they show loyalty and give their spouse priority?
Are they affectionate and romantic? Pay attention.
To have a healthy relationship, you should look for the things that will make your partner happy. You can also look at the unhealthy relationships in your own life and decide not to copy them.
Look at what you did wrong, and quickly avoid repeating it.
5. Don’t waste time
This tip is the last. Make sure that you are in control of your mind and heart. You shouldn’t be desperate to get into a relationship.
This is because it can lead to you simply wasting time when it will never work out. You could have met your future spouse in the same year that you were dating that one person.
If the person doesn’t meet your criteria, know what you want and stay true to it. There is no reason to waste your emotions on someone you don’t like.
It may seem difficult to be single when everyone around is in love. But think about how you can make your next relationship the best it can be.
You can look at the areas where you can learn and heal, and then work to give your boyfriend or girlfriend what they deserve.